Monday, May 3, 2010

Happy "Anyone Who's Mothered" Day

I am a mother and I have a great mother so one would think that I should be all gaga (not to be confused with the Lady) over May 9th. However, if you know anything about me from reading thus far in my blog, I have many views and opinions. A few deep thoughts are coming and they are not so funny this time around. (Just a little disclaimer in case you thought I was going to entertain you.)

I feel like holidays such as Mother's Day can be very cruel for those who:

a. Don't have a mother
b. Are not mothers and want to be
c. Long to be fathers
d. Have lost a child
e. Are missing a far away child.

The list goes on.

I suppose I might be more hypersensitive to this issue since it was quite a while before I actually became a mother. I remember my small, innocent nephew asking me once, "Auntie, why don't you like kids?" Ouch. He thought that because I didn't have kids, I didn't like kids.

The truth is that there are countless mothers out there "undercover". Many have never been pregnant and many are not even women. We've all "mothered" someone, somewhere in our lifetime. Whether it was in a college dorm, comforting a friend with a broken heart, far away from home. Or the teacher who nurtures a student who doesn't get much attention at home. Or the wonderful friends who treat your kids like their own (you know who you are). Or the sister who is a perpetual Godmother to your kids and loves your kids unconditionally. To the dads who are going it alone and acting in the roles of Mom and Dad. To the coworker who takes you under her wing and gives you that much needed motherly advice you won't take from your own mom. Or the sweet nurses who hold your hand in the delivery room telling you it will all be OK. And what about the thousands of people who adopt homeless animals and "mother" them to pieces?

They've all served as the role of "Mother" in some capacity and to me, they all "count" as mothers on Mother's Day. I don't want Mother's Day to be a day where someone feels excluded. Call me crazy but even my own mother thinks this holiday and many other "Hallmark" holidays should be extinct.

So, whether you are a mother in the technical sense of the word, or not, please celebrate all who have Mothered. The world has become a much better place thanks to all of you "Moms".

Happy Mother's Day to you all.

15 comments:

Anonymous said...

I am so proud and honored to say that I am your mother. Your deep sensitivity toward others is what makes you a special gal.
You are a great role model for your boys. God Bless.

Melissa said...

I'm so emotional right now upon reading your blog. You have touched my heart. I am a first time mom and I'm so happy to be a part of such celebration.

Megan said...

I am a first time reading your blog, You have touched my heart, thanx for the share.

Victoria said...

I just want to say that You are a great role model for your boys. God Bless you, thanx for posting.

Diane said...

Very Nice Blog. I really get some emotional while reading your article. You are such a great Daughter.

Rebecca Nero said...

Thanks everyone for all your nice comments! I hope you all didn't cry too much, but just in case you did, there is SOME funny stuff on my blog too.

Becky

Jane said...

I really get some emotional while reading your article. You are such a great Daughter. thanx for the tips.

Lynn said...

I enjoy your blog and its very nice topic.I'm hoping to read and learn more recipes on your blogger.Thank you

Katie said...

Ohh..I was so impressed.You are a great mother..I am a first mom too, and I was really touched by your blog. I enjoyed reading it and hope to read more like this..Thanks for posting.

jillian said...

Great very inspiring your the best mother thanks for sharing these kind of article very inspiring.

jean said...

It was pleasure reading your post! Nice and very interesting!!

Christy said...

Wow, I really enjoyed reading it and hope to read more like this..Thanks for the wonderful post, keep it up.

Jennifer said...

Interesting post! I don't have children so at the time i am not missing someone.

Brittany said...

You are a great role model for your boys. God Bless you, thanx for posting.

SHARON ELLEN BURTMAN said...

I think "Anonymous" gave herself away!! :-)